Tuesday, January 13, 2015

One Month Anni.

 
 
Mesh Leather Collar - Real Evil Industries
 
Its been one month since Shadow and I have been married. Today was special, but I was not prepared of the things that happened today. She had a fling, a one night stand, a girl's night out, prior to the day of the my daughter's wedding. But to be honest with you, it was going to happen sooner, or later. And I'm just glad she told me right away about it today.

Should I be mad? No. I'm not mad, but I'm upset and a bit greenish jealous. But it only means that my jealousy is genuine, that I love Shadow and care about her. I know being in a relationship, couples tend to fall into a routine, a normalcy of expectations of day to day activity. It happens in real life, expect it in second life.

But you have to think about it, in the long term. In real life, its harder than you think when you may own a house, and their is a child, or children in the home. Who loses? Who gets harmed? I having worked in Family Law, the children are the ones "will be hurt." They may think they are the cause of the break up between his/her mother and father. And when their are children, the judge always will weight the "best interests" of children involved. And which parent is more nurturing, when age of the child/children is factored in. Just had to mention this, maybe it will make you think "real hard" that a fling in not worth losing a family over infidelity.

 
Now, going back to SL. I brought Shadow a collar for our one month anniversary. She was surprised I got her a mesh collar. She never though of going back to wearing a collar again. After, she wore it, and she, "I need to get something off my chest. And I want to tell you under a pile of trash." And I was thinking, (Oh crap! I bet I know what this is about.) But I wanted her to tell me herself, before I said anything else. Under a pile of trash, she was under. She confused of having a fling with Azroel, Dragon's best demon at the wedding. I was shocked and a bit hurt. I was expecting it. But not so soon!

Well, all I did was remain calm, and not blame Shadow, my wife whom I love and cared about. I figured it was Azroel's fault for seducing and allowing my wife into his whims. But as long as I have been in SL, wife stealing is nothing new. Others make a game in a game of wife stealing. And sadly when it happens, it ends a lot of relationships for couples that are not able to coup with cheating.

I'm no Saint myself, as having a lot of pets in the past, along with a few concubines, and married to past wives. For Shadow, this is new to her. She has been in a relationship besides me in the past. But never has she been on a one night stand while married in SL, until now.

There is noting to forgive, and I told her not to be sorry about it. To me, it has not changed my affection and love for her, unless this experience has changed her feelings towards me.

To her, Azroel was a toy she played with. I'm glad she got curious, played with her toy and threw it away when she got done with it. And she wanted an "open relationship" after dealing with him. I am fine with that, since its mutually benefitting for both of us.

But be warned, if you are partnered in SL, its a game onto itself, with griefers as a challenge to steal a partner away. And it's played by both sexes in SL.

My love and affection for my wife, Shadow.
 
I just wanted to end with; that I affirm my love and affection for my wife Shadow. No worries dear, glad you played with a toy, and when your done with it. You know where to place it. In the trash.

Happy One Month Anni!
 

Monday, January 12, 2015

Evil with Dragon

A little pre-wedding background. Just a couple of weeks ago, Shadow and I talked to Dragon and my daughter Julia of taking their time with the relationship they started together. We gave them 30 days to really work at it, especially getting to know each other better. Well, in summary they broke up, Julia un-partnered Dragon, thinking Dragon was spending too much time at Hellhole. He happens to be one of my Enforcers, and being on Hellhole is to enforce the rules we abide by.

Then I was surprised this past couple of days, being called Grandpa by my daughter. In my head, I was thinking: (crap, shit, wtf, oh boy, great) And anything else that came rushing in like a train wreck. Most of all, the lack of respect my SL daughter gave us, by not listening to Shadow and I after just having talked to her in detail about her new relationship with Dragon. She was just in two past relationships a month ago of last year.

But no, this is what Shadow and I got, a wedding ceremony planned. She asked me to preside as Minister of Dark Matrimony two days ago, and this is their wedding.

Shadow - kisses her step daughter... "You look beautiful. Lets do this."

(Shadow walks in from the unholy church entrance, ahead of Julia, and places herself to my right of the altar. Then Julia walks in, with all eyes upon her. Dress in a white gown, with her belly exposed to the air, walking up the aisle. She stops beside Dragon as she looks at him.)

"Step forward, Dragon and  my dear daughter.."

 
"Friends .. Demons... Family... I am happy to preside as Dark Minister for this wedding ceremony for my daughter Julia and my son in law Dragon. To give my daughter to him, that I know he will do his best to make her happy.
 
Dragon as an Enforcer of Hellhole, I have gotten to know you; your ambitions, future plans as Founder of Chaos, and your desires for my daughter."
 
"Thank you sir." (smiles at Kaboom)

"Are there any here that wish them not to join in dark matrimony?" Pauses..(No objection is heard) "Good. We can continue."

"Dragon do you take my daughter Julia, as your wife to love and cherish for eternum?" "I do."

"My daughter Julia. Do you take Dragon as your husband to honor, praise, and love for eternum?"

"Yes my dad. I love him and respect him for eternity."

"Do you wish to add your own personal vows to each other?"
(Looks at Dragon)

"I do. But they are lengthy, and I already confessed all my love for her. (Kaboom nods and continues)

"By the powers vested in me, and by the forces of darkness. I pronouce you both husband and wife. You may kiss the bride."

Dragon (smiles at Julia affectionately, turning to kiss his bride.)
Julia (returns with an affectionate kiss to her husband)

"Congratulations to you both." (smiles) Shadow, "Congrats you two." (smiles)

Dragon, "Thanks."

Ddraigneel, (Roars...Roars... and bellowing fire!)
Azroel, "Yeahhh! Congratzs!!!"

Dragon, "I love you wife." Julia, "I love you my husband."

Julia, "Dad, thank you for your dark blessings. Thank you everyone for coming." (Kisses daughter on the cheek)

Dragon, "And now we do the partnership? Julia, "I accept the partnering."

I point to Jill (our human House Pet) to wait by her Mistress Shadow.

Dragon, "I almost forgot about the impaling."

Shadow, (chuckles at the bride sitting in her wedding gown) That's your daughter Kaboom. (nods)

It was a small wedding, with Azroel, an arch-demon as best demon for Dragon. He invited his friend Ddraigneel to keep him company as a dragonoid creature of Hell. And our house pet Jill, that sat on the floor behind Dragon and Julia at the front of the podium as the ceremony began.

BR: Julia, Ddraigneel, and Azroel. MR: Shadow and I.
FR: Jill and Dragon
 
My thoughts after the wedding. (I hope it works out well for them.)