Parting Ways

I never though I would be writing this, about a friend I have known a long time in SL. But it has, and I had to end it. BJ, was first introduced to me by Shadow, my pet dragon that followed Kitten (who was my first wife at the time) home. It was during the wedding reception of Kitten and I, when Shadow brought BJ to us. She was just a week old at the time, still finding her way in SL. Her first time meeting a bunch of demons. that pretty much terrified her. She did not know to stay, or flea. But I assured her at the reception, we did not plan on having human as the main course that evening.

I thought noting of it, and assumed she would be on her way. Little by little during the weeks that followed, she would IM me, "What cha doing?" and we would chat. And that is how our friendship started and grew. She was my subby, a lover, a close confidant, my aid decamp, and First Lieutenant as Enforcer of Hellhole. And most of all, I made Co-Owner of Hellhole during my absence.

Her and I have been through a lot, sided with her when it came to disputes among friends. Left a land when BJ was forced to leave by the landowner, even thou I was fine where I was. Just so she knew I backed her up and supported her. As I knew she was on the wrong side of an argument.

During the day of my wedding with Shadow (not my pet dragon). BJ brought her bad attitude with her, and tried to ruin it for me and Shadow. She came dressed as a bunny, with rabbit ears and a cotton tail. Shadow was having a private conversation with her in IM, trying to get her in proper attire. No, she insisted as she was, in a bunny outfit.

BJ in Bunny Outfit

 

Then backed out as my family representative, and stated "You should have thought of me as your family representative first." instead of Misti. So she left, taking two of her friends with her, who planned to see and stay for the wedding.

Now, I did not mind if BJ directed her bad attitude towards me. As I am used to her lack of emotional control, and can handle it. But to piss off Shadow on our wedding day, tells me BJ has no respect for herself, nor for anyone at that point. As far as I'm concerned, that was the last straw, and I decided it was time to part ways. I hated to end our friendship, but it seemed to me, she lost her self respect, and for me as well.

Previously before the wedding, she sent a notice in the group, about pets in regards to ownership and training, that was not received well by the Overlords. As she was contacted by Lord Coronzon, Mistress Katrinova, and Lady Death, that added more a negative resentment lending to the wedding. I can see she was a power keg, that exploded on my wedding day with Shadow. But there is no excuse for it.

Sindar, (BJ's lover) later IM me a few days after the wedding. About how BJ was emotionally fragile the way her relationship had been leading up to the wedding. She sent me a note card explaining the situation that occurred that week. I read it, and along how BJ became more emotionally unstable, when I ended our friendship. I felt bad about BJ, but I felt more bad for my wife Shadow, if I took BJ back. Shadow would later mention, that BJ was glad to see us ended our relationship the past year. And that pretty much helped my decision not to contact BJ, and just move on and part ways.

And too add, I also ended my relationship with Misti, now a former daughter. She caused some drama the eve of our wedding. I can't remember all the details, but she backed out as my initial family representative on the eve. She mentioned about having surgery in RL on our wedding day. Humm..? Surgery on a Saturday? I used to work in a hospital, and its usually done on an emergency situation during the weekend. I did not know how serious her health condition was in RL, and though nothing of it. And maybe it was a serious enough for an emergency procedure. That may require Inpatient stay for the weekend.

When the wedding just so happens to have ended that late afternoon, she comes in world and not even a congratulations. Yes. That made me boil! I have zero tolerance when I'm being made an ass. So good riddance, as far as Shadow and I are concerned.

It has been an interesting pre-wedding event, with these sad moments. But this too shall pass.